Your selfish and greedy for wanting sympathy for not having relationships and blaming others. Lots of people don't have those things

http://www.thefreelibrary.com/Using+E-Prime+and+English+Minus+Absolutisms+to+provide+self-empathy.-a0145561487

You spend a lot of time tending to your own needs and not the needs of others.

you are

I'm lazy-I don't work as often as leanna does and leanna has a higher degree than I do.

translate judgements into concrete observations

leanna is mean and judgemental-leanna hasn't said anything I thought to be encouraging to me in 6 years.

what is alive in your now?
You shouldn't be laying hear spending hours everyday feeling sorry for yourself, nor should you be complaining about how you feel to others you should be doing more things and you should have done more things by now...translate these judgements.

are you feeling anxious that I won't finish the program?

You want to feel confident that all the hard work your doing in these appointments are making a positive difference?

when I hear statements that I interpret as/think to myself are demands I sometimes react in ways that I later on wish I wouldn't react in/feel dissapointed in.

I sometimes choose to not follow their instructions because I want to avoid the possibility that they might believe/that the way they expressed their statement is an effective way to gain my cooperation.