yourself.
boy when people sometimes say judgements about ...
I feel really insecure and hurt because I would like some more sensitivity and understanding of how
much pressure these situations put me under. It's real tempting to stay quiet and continue my long-time
habit of talking to myself in the way that I've
been talking to myself/make angry statements about the situation to myself but I'm confident that I
won't end up happier than I've felt in the past therefore I'd like to try to plan to spend
at least a little more time than usual to try to volunteer, practice NVC, and do therapeutic exercises
like yoga and take it from there as I don't see what I have to loose by trying.
boy that teacher is really boring it's really tempting to continue to daydream but I feel worried that
this could turn into a bad habit and I'd like to have
clarity and ry to at least
try to pay attention to meet my need for c
you shouldn't express much of your emotions positive or negative around theresa
I choose to not talk to theresa
I chose not to finish bartending school because I wanted to try to convince my family and myself that money isn't that important to me.
I choose-I have to
I might-I should
I should have finished bartending school.
I might have been happier if I had finished bartending school but I sometimes do things
that I wouldn't have done if I had known what I since have learned.
what am I feeling? What am I needing?
what am I telling myself?
from now on it's all day all the time just art and that's it and if your not one hundred & fifty billion percent
supportive of that then you can't be a part of my life ever 24/7, 48/14. Just that & that's it.
jackal turned inward-your a just a lazy selfish manipulative liar you just want money and sympathy/pity.
avoid using impersonal pronouns to avoid using guilt inducing language.
ie I feel because you
I was disgusted because you were trying to force me to care about relationships.
I chose
It don't believe that assertiveness requires aggressiveness.
It infuriates me when people use aggressiveness rather than assertiveness torwards me because I want to be a calm person/because I value peaceful relationships and would like to find a different way to resolve conflicts.
it infuriated me when you said my life sucked without sexual encounters because I was hoping to avoid worrying about such things and I heard what you said as you forcing me to worry about it/because I was
telling myself that you were trying to force me to care about it against my will.
because I was hearing what you said as a demand to care about such things.
because I was hoping that nobody would try to convince me to care about such things and I was hearing that many people were trying to compel me to do so.
because I was hoping that you would be more considerate of what I want.
I feel infuriated because I hear your words as an insult and I was hoping you would be trying to help me.
jackal turned outward-your all stupid and ignorant cause you think that all there is to life is money.
well you know what a degree is just a piece of paper. It's a dead tree.
http://www.ayahuasca-wasi.com/english/articles/NVC.pdf
“They made me sit there without moving
for a whole hour” – denial or responsibility.
“I chose to sit there without moving for a
whole hour because I wanted to try out the
teacher’s instructions.” - NVC
Replace “I have to”
with “I choose to”,
and “I should” with
“I might
I didn't finish bartending school bc lorraine and my family made me feel horrible by telling me about money
and how horrible of a person I am.
I didn't finish bartending school because I chose to respond to what my ex-therapist and my family said
by not following their instructions.
“People who hurt others deserve to be punished.” – deserve
oriented language
“I’d like to see people who hurt others be given the opportunity to
make amends for harm they caused because I value healing and
restoration of trust.” - NVC
Lorraine deserves to suffer for what she did to me.
I'd like to see lorraine given the opportunity to make amends with me for the harm
she caused because I value healing and restoration of trust.
I do it because I want art that that's it.
I'd like to pursue art because I value art and the ability to make my own choices.
Lorraine deserves to suffer for what she did to me.
I'd like to see lorraine given the opportunity to make amends with me for the harm
she caused because I value healing and restoration of trust.
I do it because I want art that that's it.
I'd like to pursue art because I value art and the ability to make my own choices.
